Being loving and affection means that you often will give more in a relationship than the other person. This happens because you do not even think about what you are doing. You are just naturally giving, compassionate, accommodating and you are always there for the other person when they are needing you.
There is nothing wrong with being this person, but the problem is that when you are too giving, it gives the other person the chance to slack and not to give much in return.
You have to have a relationship that is balanced and where there is give and take. Relationships will never be 50/50 but when one partner is always the one giving and the other one is always taking then you need to reevaluate your situation and think about what is going on.
Having a balanced relationship means that you are in a happy and healthy relationship. It means that you are not the only one giving time and that you are making your partner do their part in the relationship. Having a balanced relationship means that both people are compromising int heir life, and both are doing whatever it takes to make the relationship work.
If you feel that you are the only one giving, you have to pull yourself back. Here are some ways to do that:
Be About You
Take time each day to care about yourself. This means if you need to relax and read a book, meditate, take a long bath or whatever you need, you do it. Make sure you show yourself love each and everyday and that you are balanced between giving to yourself and giving to your partner. This will show your partner that you want to be treated better and they will work harder.
Relationships are hard work and it takes two to make it work. You might have to change the way that you look at your relationship and find out if you are part of the problem or if you are making the right moves. It takes two people to make a relationship work so if you are taking or giving too much, there is no balance. You have to realize how to make balance and to make it work.
Give Them Opportunities
When you put a lot of effort into things, chances are you are not giving other people the chance to do the same. When the relationship begins flowing that way, you change their chances of opportunities and you make it easy for them not to do anything.
When a women ends up giving too much in the relationship, she might begin to feel frustrated. This can cause there to be fights and cause her to give up completely. Your partner does not know what you are thinking or feeling.
If you need someone to talk to, ask them to talk to you. You have to tell your partner and communicate with him so that he knows what you are desiring.
Take time to learn something new. Find a new hobby or take a class. Do this so that you and your partner can have positive energies and that your relationship will stay good.
It is okay to be alone sometimes. It is okay to take time for yourself. This is something that will make you and your partner stronger and will help to make the relationship better.
Being in a partnership does not mean that you have to spend all of your time together. You need to have time to be alone and so does your partner. This will add more excitement to your relationship when you are back together.
Just because you are with someone does not mean that you should give up on your friends. Take time to be with your friends and let your partner do the same. Make plans with the girls and do things that you enjoy with them. You do not have to always be with your partner to be having fun.
Talk to your partner about what you want and need in the relationship. By talking, you avoid arguments and confrontations. Being in a habit of talking about your relationship will make the relationship stronger and happier.
This does not always have to be deep conversations. Just open up about things as they come up. Talk about what you like to do and where you like to go. Talk about cooking and who should have a turn doing the laundry. When something comes up, talk about it.
If you realize you have given more than you are getting in the relationship, it can be frustrating, but it can be fixed. Fix it without making it into a big deal. Take time for yourself, give yourself space and care, have open communication and be the best you can be, and the relationship can be one you have always dreamed about.